It’s surprising how multi-layered healing is. The life lessons that show up for us can be challenging at best and bring up aspects of our selves, our life experiences and the things we need to undo, peel back, consider and heal from. Forgiveness goes a long way in this process. Forgiveness to self is also something we have to walk into. No one can do it for us.
There is a depth of vulnerability that comes with injury or illness. Feelings surface easily and one that really gets me is the feeling guilty for the injury or illness. Enter forgiveness. I’ll share my thoughts here about this injury recovery I’m still going through, as my clients have expressed their association with it too.
I don’t know if our feeling guilty for all the things that change and the lack of control we have when we get injured and need to go through extensive healing time is due to how we were raised, the social expectations or what. Perhaps all of it. How easy is it to feel guilty because we can no longer participate fully in the responsibilities we’ve been carrying, the function of our daily life and our plans that get put on hold?
Guilt and self blame have a very low vibration. Not a great place to be in when one is healing from injury (or illness for that matter). When I look at events bringing me life lessons, I can use my feelings as information. What do I need to come to terms with? Acceptance? What do I need to do with my inner and outer environment to support my body-vehicle in a more balanced way? What is the lesson(s) in this event?
Many of my colleagues and I have had this ongoing conversation. They are learning through me, as I am learning from their insights.
Forgiveness to oneself is a place I find myself going to, when I start to question how this injury has botched things up for other people, botched up my “plans” for the months I had my calendar filled with the “to do” items, for the delay in business planning and carrying out those steps at the pace I (ego) had desired.
Sometimes things happen to slow us down. To make us pay attention. To allow the Universe to “catch up” in it’s orchestration of people coming into our lives, events we will participate in. It’s as much about other people in our life as it is about us, the injured or ill one.
So begin with forgiveness of self. We are enough as we are. Injured or not. Ill or not. Look for the meaning, look to realize a truth. Be gentle with yourself. It changes our perspective and it also allows our vibration to raise. Drop in your heart. In spite of all that has occurred, love yourself.